Friday, June 20, 2008

Be Happy With What You Have

Why is it that most mothers are not happy with their positions?

Most stay at home moms envy the working moms because they get adult interaction; most working moms would give their right arm to stay home with their kids.

I have been thinking about this lately. I am one working mom that would give her right arm to stay home with her kids, but I also understand the stay at home moms point of view. When I did stay home with Taylor, there were days I wished I did work. For the most part, I was happy being home and being her mom, but there were those days.

I guess the grass is not always greener on the other side. When I did it, I wanted what I have now. Now that I have it I want to go back. I guess I never thought about having to keep up with dishes (no dishwasher), laundry, house cleaning and still have time to spend with my kids. I thought (I was dreaming I know) that I could go to work, pick up my kids after and play with them all night. I guess I thought dinner would make itself, laundry would all ready be done by the laundry fairy, and those dishes? They would magically get done while I was sleeping or we would use paper plates, cutlery, cups and napkins. That doesn't even include the bathing of children and having two little girls that need their hair done.

I fortunately have an amazing husband who does not hesitate to jump in and do his fair share. He used to do all the dishes and fold the laundry, as well as, helping me clean on the weekends. I would do all the laundry, cooking and bathing. Now that he is in school I fold the laundry now and do the dishes when he doesn't get a chance to. He does a lot on the weekends for me, but it is still tiring for both of us. I know I am extrememly lucky because none of my friends husbands really help them out whether they work or not. Some do a little bit, but I constantly hear, "Can I just trade you husbands only for a couple days?"

I have a little plaque that hangs above the entry way leading from the living room to the dining room that says it best, "Be Happy With What You Have." I am going to make a conscience effort to make this my personal motto and not complain about how I want so desperately to stay home. I am going to be grateful that I have a job. I may not always like it, but it pays well and many people do not have jobs. I have a boss that is flexible when he wants to be so I am going to remember those times not the times that he isn't. I have a wonderful, (sorta) healthy family who loves me unconditionally and a great support system. I challenge you all to leave in the comments the wonderful things about your life.


Courtney said...

I know Callee looks like she is on drugs, but I just love that picture of her. It makes me smile every time I see it.

Shana said...

Very cute pictures of the girls.

I am thankful everyday I wake up and I am able to stay at home with my boys! We sacrifice so many things for me to be able to stay home. I wouldn't change a thing!!!

Your Mother and Brother are in my prayers! I hope they find something soon.

And to answer your question about the rash... It doesn't seem to bother him at all. Just looks really bad!

Steph said...

I so know how you feel on a regular basis I want for the ability to stay home then after a rough weekend with the kids I think thank God I can go to work! It is a tough choice. You are very lucky to have a hubby that helps mine is a helper as well which is a huge help! Have a great weekend.

Motherhood for Dummies said...

it is nice to havea husband that helps. My hubby and I talked about that alot when I was pregnant. I ddin't mind if he didn't clean the house, but when it came to parenting I wanted us to both do 100%. I didn't want him to not be involved, plus I knew my sanity couldn't handle doing it alone. Thank goodness was awesome hubbies!

Kellan said...

What a great post, Courtney. This is one of the primary lessons I try to instill in my kids - "Be thankful for all you have!!"

Great post - see you - Kellan

Andrea said...

Isn't it great to have a hubby who helps out whenever he can? We are blessed to have that!! :) And hopefully your mom and bro can find new jobs very soon!

my wonderful men... said...

Love all the pictures, I hope you all have a great weekend.
And I'll keep your grandparents in prayer.

AZMom said...

What a great post. I have been both a FT SAHM and FT working mom (now). They are both exhausting and rewarding in their own ways. I do miss spending a lot of time with my kids and I really enjoyed it when I had them for spring break and I was off too. I can't wait to go on vacation in September with them!

My husband sounds like yours in that he helps a lot around the house too. He is the major cook in the family and I play the minor soux chef role for the most part. He will help with laundry and cleaning. He is a neat freak which helps.

I love my family more than life itself and have to remind myself a lot of times too to stop and be thankful for what I do have. It can all change in an instant.

melissa said...

you're right! be grateful for what you have!! i am. i'm lucky.