Thursday, November 6, 2008

Sometimes there just isn't enough time

Sometimes there isn't enough time to cut the crusts off sandwiches and your kids have to "suck it up."

Sometimes there isn't enough time to finish that last load of laundry so it has to sit in the dryer until morning.

Sometimes there isn't enough time to take the polish off so you can apply a different color to your toes.

Sometimes there isn't enough time to have a really good in depth conversation with a great friend.

Sometimes there isn't enough time for one more TV show.

But, there is always enough time for one more kiss, one more hug, one more I love you, one more snuggle, one more "look" that says "Mom, I love you and I admire you."



I have no idea why I wrote all of that, but it's what started coming out from the typing my fingers began.

Last night I got a call from my friend Ashley telling me how different her new job is from her old job and not in a good way. After the unloading of that and the explanations she dropped a very good bomb on me. She is moving back to Ohio to work for the family she used to work for. They have decided to have another baby and she is due in March and they don't want anyone but Ashley. This is so great, my friend won't be living an hour and a half away anymore (which isn't terrible anyway) she will be 30 minutes tops down the road. She knows the family and knows their expectations and she will have the opportunity to go back and get her masters. Of course she won't be moving here until the end of March, but I am still excited now.

Onto some sad news. Taylor and Callee had this exceptional daycare teacher who has babysat for us in the past. Both my girls love her and she used to be the preschool helper in Taylor's class, but has since been moved to take over Callee's class. Yesterday she walked out of her job. My aunt told me about it when I picked the girls up yesterday and I talked to the teacher for almost two hours last night. I don't think walking out was the right thing to do, but some of the things she told me upset me. I know my kids are not in direct way of danger and I know (S the teacher confirmed it) that my aunt goes out of her way to make sure my kids are very well taken care of. The problem I have though is that S is such a good fit for my kids. We have to take the girls out of daycare this summer because Taylor will be starting school and the daycare is not in our school system so it is not an option for her to be picked up for school there and dropped back off. We were going to have to hire someone either for both the girls or just someone to get Taylor on and off the bus and continue taking Callee to the daycare. S is thinking about doing some in home daycare and I am crunching numbers to see if we can afford her. I feel like I am turning my back on family, but I don't know what else to do. She is great for them and my aunt even said that S was a wonderful teacher and she wishes she would reconsider her decision and come back. Yea, she's that good.

What would you do? Am I turning my back on my family? I would feel so much more comfortable with a nanny at our house with the girls if we could afford it, plus it would probably save me in doctor bills and it will definitely save me in gas. Give me your opinions please!!!

13 comments:

My Wonderful Men said...

Family or not you have to do what's best for you and the girls. If I could have found someone to come to my house instead of doing daycare, I would have jumped all over that.

That's great your friend is moving back.

Cheffie-Mom said...

My children are much older now, but I think you should do what is best for the girls. I think if you have the option for a nanny, I would take it.

Jess T said...

Do what's best for the kids. Period. :)

Shana W. said...

I have to agree with the others do what you think is best for your girls. You can't go wrong with what is right for them.

Kristi said...

I have to ditto everyone else. The girls come first. As the mom, only you can make the right decision for them.

AZMom said...

If you have the option for a nanny, take it. Your children's best interest and care is what you need to worry about. :-) Big hugs...follow your heart!

KC said...

not turning your back on family, if it doesn't work for what fits for you life after she starts school it just doesn't fit.. KWIM?? you have to do what is going to work for you and the girls. So if the girls like S and she is looking for in home work and that works for you I say go for it.. BUT don't get your hopes up for less doctor bills.. because with her starting school you will be gathering a bunch of new kids germs and then the germs from those kids little sibs who are in preschool being passed on via way of there school age sister or brothers.. and don't forget if there are older sibs at different schools those germs will come into the elementary school also.. UGH it is never ending.. and the more kids you have the worst it is.. ~sigh~

Kellan said...

I would discuss the situation with your aunt and be honest. You should try to do what is best for your family and your girls and hopefully your aunt would be understanding and agree.

Take care - Kellan

Kathy said...

I'm sure you'll make the best decision. As everyone else commented, your kids come first, I know that is most important to you. Maybe list the pros and cons of both?

Steph said...

make her an offer and don't worry about your family do what you think is best for the kids.

Andrea said...

Yep...I think that you should definitely do what's best for you girls if you can afford it! And I loved that little "time" write up you wrote at the top...it's so very true!

Mimi's Toes said...

You have to do what's best for your girls and your family. I think them being at home is the best choice. You don't have to please other family members. You don't have any explaining to do, it is your choice and your business. I know you will do the right thing. Give it to God and pray about it and everything will work out. I enjoyed your post and it's really what I needed this morning. Thanks.

Beautiful Disaster said...

You know my opinion girlie......if your aunt wasn't pulling the crap she's pulling it wouldn't be such a big issue....she knows she's in the wrong and she'll get over it....and if she doesn't oh well the girls deserve better and you deserve a better piece of mind.....you only live once Court...make it the best life you can....love ya girlie