Friday, February 8, 2008

Upsides?



Kellan writes these hilarious stories about her everyday life and always finds the upsides in her kids being weird, difficult, funny, rotten, etc. I look forward to reading her blog daily because I know I am sure to laugh or be touched by the occassional heartfelt story. Yes, I know I seem like a blog stalker, but I love this woman's blog and I know a lot of you read it and love it also! Anyways, this week my kids have been, well let's call them difficult. I am stealing Kellan's idea and after I spill my week, I will tell you what my upside is.

Monday and Tuesday someone came to my house and watched my kids because my babysitter's daughter was very sick and I didn't want my girls getting it. I called home to check on them, I talked to them, they were great! I walk through the door excited to see them and I'm greeted with tears and tantrums. Why???? This has happened occassionally in the past so I just go on with my day and say it is because their schedules were thrown off.

Wednesday they went back to the babysitter. I pick them up, they cry the whole way home, while I'm making dinner, while their eating, during bath time and when I put them to bed. Seriously is their something in my house that makes them act like this? I don't get it. Thursday, I pick them up and Callee cries the whole way home. My brother came over and watched them so I could run to the store. He said they were good for him and they were pretty good for me for about 45 minutes and Callee started crying again. Ugh!

The whole time I'm thinking "Why don't you act like this for your dad once in a while and give me a break?"

I was discussing this with my mom last night because it is really starting to wear me out physically and wear my patience thin. We both thought of it at the same time. Mike has them longer than I do and he gets to enjoy them. I pick them up from the babysitter and as soon as we get home it's cook dinner, eat (hurry up), it's bath time. Let's dry your hair because you need to get to bed. Then I tuck them in bed, get a shower and go to bed myself. This whole situation is aggravated by the fact that I don't get off until 5 so we don't get home until about 5:45 most days!

So the upside in all of this? They love their mom and want to see her more!!! I need to quit working, now if only our finances would let me...Hmmm...

Here are some pictures of the nail painting party we had this weekend:

16 comments:

Kathy said...

It sounds like you have the tough shift with the babies. One good thing is that they get to spend so much time with daddy instead of a stranger. But it sure would be nice to be able to stay home to work.

Janice said...

Where do you work? Just wondering. I love the nails. My girls totally love it too.

Kellan said...

Thanks so much for mentioning me and my stories - I really appreciate your constant friendship and support!!

And ... about the crying. I know this only too well. Alexis goes through phases (weeks at a time) where she will get off the bus crying or begin crying and whining once she gets in the house. It happens all the time. I have only concluded that she is stressed/tired and when she gets home and lets it out - I am the one she has to let it out on - the one she expects to help her "fix" the problem. Sometimes I am tolerant to these tantrums, and sometimes not so much. It is difficult. Sometimes, I also realize that it is me that sets the "tone" and she plays off me - if I am in a good mood, it influences her mood, etc..

Good luck with your sweet girls - I know it can be hard - I know. The fingernails look Mar-velous!! Have a great weekend Courtney - Kellan

Kellan said...

BTW - I just took yesterday off. I was overloaded with lots of different stuff and just needed to take care of. Plus, we've all been sick and I've just been a bit tired. Thanks for your concern - I think I'm on the other side of all of that. See ya. Kellan

girlymom said...

I am unbelievably fortunate to be able to stay home with my children and I give you all the credit in the world for being able to juggle that kind of a schedule~ I don't know how you do it. I guess the only thing I can think of is what about taking a day and making a couple meals that you can freeze. Pull them out in the morning and when you get home throw in the oven. Then you can spend a little more time with the kids and not be so rushed. Sounds ideal right, but how realistic. Sorry I am not much help. Cute pics though, looks like they enjoyed it.

Shana said...

I think you are right. My boys don't do as well when we are rushing around either. And I am sure they miss you! But doing fun things like you did with them is great! You are a good Mommy Courtney!

And I have been meaning to ask, what is your job? I see Janice asked to, you may have to do a post about it....lol!!!

One Scrappy Chicklet said...

They just miss mommy. That is so sweet but I know the crying is hard for you.
Hope you get to spend some non crying time this weekend.


Tami

Chrissy said...

Crying babies are no fun! But I bet the nail-polishing party was a hit...can't wait to do that with mine!

HRH said...

Yes, they totally love their mommy! The nails are beautiful...you need to come help me out.

AZMom said...

Oh Hon! Your week has been my weekend. If it was not one child throwing a tantrum, it was the other! Oldest girl rarely gets into trouble and she was in trouble a ton today. Youngest boy was horrible yesterday. I am looking forward to going back to work tomorrow even though I know I will miss them as soon as I leave the house. LOL

As for quitting your job, I can relate to that too. I have a 2nd interview tomorrow and if this job comes through I will have our finances in a place that I CAN quit working about July.

KC said...

(((HUGS)))) I'm sure you are right.. but you are a wonderful mom.
Love the pictures.
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Laura said...

I love the little hands and feet pictures. Many times I find myself wanting to yell,"You don't respect me the way you respected your dad and it hurts..." and I stop short. I think that they look at us as Mama, who will get over it and/or comfort us and/or won't care as much as Dad. I know I wear down easier because I was with them more. On the crying...perhaps they get affected by the winter doldrums too. It does make for a long day though. Hugs to you.

suchsimplepleasures said...

when i got divorced, i decided to get a job. it was around the time when my oldest son started kindergarten and my daughter was in preschool. they were having a rough time because they weren't used to me working. it was so difficult. i used to get phone calls, at work, from my son's school...he was having meltdowns. my daughter, thankfully, was doing fine...until i would come home from work. i had the same thing to deal with...crying, tantrums and the like! it was awful and, i didn't have any help!!! after a year, i finally quit working. i got remarried...although, i probably NEED to work...i understand the finance thing...all too well! but...aside from the normal ups and downs of growing up, my children have been way better. but...our bills suck...so, what is the right thing to do?
your kids will be fine! lots of children have 2 working parents. statistics (although, i am NOT a big statistic person)have shown that kids in daycare have a head start socially and educationally! they will be fine. just remember to breathe...and, spend quality time with them, like the manicures, whenever you can!
xoxo

my wonderful men... said...

Not feeling good, missing you is hard on them. I know the crying can be trying.
Hang in there, this to shall pass.
They grow up very fast, trust me I know.

Jen said...

I think they save it up for Mommy when she gets there. That's the only explanation I can think of. My kids used to be soooo good for their sitter, and then I'd pick them up and it would be a half hour of straight whining.